If this is what you want

You want to 
– heal your life
– improve relationships
– realize ambitions

– have more self esteem

But, if this is you...

You know that something is not quite working, or that something is very wrong.

You have tried every possibility, but life is just not getting better enough…

Take the audit below to review and get clear on Action Points

Emotional Maturity

Improve your Relationships and help you achieve your dreams

Unresolved Grief Assessment

Let us find out – by doing this assessment – where you may need help.

Self Esteem

Find out your self-esteem level and receive helpful tips and tools.

Sress Level

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Relationship Rescue

Every relationship we have is an important relationship – friends, family, the cashier behind the till, the idiot driver in front of you.
​We can learn to deal better in all aspects of relationships, but intimate relationships are usually the relationships we ask help with first.
Intimate relationships
Almost every relationship can be rescued, as long as two people are willing to work on it.
Some relationships need more work, others just need a little tweak.
Sometimes a little bit of constant tuning keeps things humming smoothly.
We are all individuals, and relationships are just like that – there are natural ups and downs, and every relationship is unique. But the downs need not be that low, and the highs can be more the norm. Sometimes we just need tools which will help us to navigate our relationships better.
Two partners’ involvement in the process is preferable, but even one partner who is doing the work will cause a ripple effect of improved relations.
Read more…

Unresolved Childhood and other Grief

Children sustain terrible loss or hurt during childhood, as well as accidental or wrongly-interpreted hurts, and has to address the unresolved grief in later years, as mostly it has not been adequately dealt with.
When a child has had to grow up too fast, whatever the reason, and has had to learn coping skills beyond his/her years, habits are established that will help the child to survive difficult circumstances.
These habits are often essential coping tools for a child who was insufficiently nurtured, protected and validated during crucial developmental stages.   But these habits will stop working when the child enters adulthood, and will continue to have negative ripple effects.
However, children are meant to be children. Children are meant to be parented by their actual primary caregivers, but these people are often themselves the product  of inadequate parenting. They may be doing their best, but may be dealing with their own life crisis or the child may just not be a match for them, or has just fallen through the cracks of their lives.
Self parenting leads to damaging limiting beliefs – read more…
Even as adults we can suffer grief and loss but have no adequate coping mechanisms, resulting in unresolved grief. That can lead to us being diagnosed with depression, cardiovascular problems, feeling stuck, substance abuse and decreased productivity. But you can get help…

Self Esteem Builder

Self esteem, or the lack of it, is the single biggest cause of problems in our day to day lives.

Low Self Esteem results in

  • interpersonal relationship challenges
  • burnout
  • anxiety and depression
  • isolation
  • lack of joy in life
  • a sense of being alone
  • feeling unaccepted
  • people pleasing

High Self Esteem results in

  • self acceptance
  • relationships improving
  • real connection
  • getting support
  • better communication
  • better decision making
  • more initiative
  • achieving goals
  • more energy

​Which do you prefer?
​If you want to improve your self esteem and if you want to improve your life, find out more…

Burnout, Anxiety and Trauma Recovery

Burnout, anxiety and depression are all physical manifestations that something is very wrong with our lives.
We are often so focused on the survival treadmill that we cannot see the outlooks, perspectives and world view that is keeping us in a negative situation.
Sometimes we need someone to be our blind spot mirror in order for us to see life in a more benevolent way, and learn strategies that can help us transform our life situations.
​We all buy into labels until we learn to take charge of our outcomes.
Do not accept labels unquestioningly as your bane in life! First be prepared to work through your unresolved childhood issues. Be prepared to look at the latest neuropsychology research. Be prepared to try something you have not tried before. Because if you show up willing to try what you have not tried before, you can achieve life changing miracles. I know, because that is the road I had to walk, climb and sometimes crawl.”
Start changing your life right now, right here…

What is I-nfinite Potential all about?

It is an amazing thing when you find that you have been sleepwalking all of your life! It is estimated that we are spending 70 – 80% of our waking hours being driven by our sub-conscious. And the most powerful of those unconscious reactions have been cemented by the age of 7! 
This is all fine and well if you had an upbringing in which you were nurtured, affirmed and loved unconditionally, with firm but loving boundaries. But for most of us it is true that we sustained emotional injuries along the way, even during “happy” childhoods.
The good news is that you can become aware of how your story shaped your worldview as well as your habitual responses and actions. Becoming emotional mature and self sufficient is possible once awareness and self-knowledge has been established.
I-nfinite Potential was born from a desire to share the life changing tools I acquired with as many people as possible.

I know that it is possible to go from an outwardly centered perspective where other people is the source of your daily happiness – or unhappiness! – to being able to decide how your day is going to be, every day!

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Living a life truly aligned with your highest purpose

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The best way for us to achieve our dreams and our best version of ourselves is by shifting our attention into a growth mode.

We focus on where we want to go, surround ourselves with positivity, encouraging people and the resources that will help us focus on our goal.

Choose all or just one of 35 covers! You can use it as a slideshow screensaver or as a static or rolling desktop background.


Your free 35 page solution to finding Support and Connection.

It is easier to drop self-sabotaging habits than it is to learn new habits, so with this short e-book you will find all the habits that holds us back unknowingly, plus the outlooks and behaviours to use in its place


What is an Adult Child?

70 – 80 % of the world population walk around, unconsciously trapped in thinking patterns, outlooks and behaviors left over from childhood survival machanism. Find out how your life can improve immediately by just upgrading your awareness.

Free Trauma Release Live Session

We all need a little support…

So I am inviting you to a free, live trauma release Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or Tapping Session on Zoom

Email me louise@i-nfinitepotential.com for day, time and link

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I wrote Hamster Wheel Relationships for Women as I simply had to – I had so many people appearing to help me once I got ready, and this is my way of paying it forward.

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Our relationships with our fathers will have a significant influence on how we see men. It will determine whether we think they are trustworthy. It will influence whether we will be fearful of being abandoned by men. Through our father’s eyes we look at ourselves – this is how we imagine men will see us. Do we measure up? Or are we always going to over-compensate to make up for us not feeling worthy. And how much bad treatment will we take simply because we fear being abandoned?

If we are lucky enough to be treated by our dads like Princess Cheesecake, the One and Only, but with respect for our separateness, our entire view of ourselves changes. We expect more for ourselves, and we are faster to dismiss relationships that are toxic for us.

Wanting our father’s approval is a very normal desire for a little girl of any age. I remember how my father ridiculed people with normal fear, so at the age of six I decided I was not scared of his pack of ferocious Alsations. They did not eat me, so there must be some truth to the notion that dogs smell fear and will attack. But that experience of trying to impress my father meant that I could not connect to feeling fear. I did not know that I had fear of abandonment triggers, as I simply could not connect to any feelings of fear!

Leoni decided that she would have to be her two sisters’ caretaker. Her dad told her as the oldest they were her responsibility to make sure they were not bullied. So she built herself a bulletproof, tough attitude. ”It was very hard to make friends, as I did not let anyone see the real me. I was longing for a relationship in which I was accepted. I did not realise that my relationships kept failing because my bulletproof attitude meant I was pushing them out of my life. I had to learn all over how to let people see the real, soft me inside.”

Sandra’s dad died when she was very young. He was her hero. They had fun. He was one hundred percent on her side. She tried to recreate that relationship all her life. Problem was that …







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