Transforming the Destructive Cycle of Hamster Wheel Relationships

I wrote a book on Hamster Wheel Relationships for the desperate me of 12 years ago…
I could not do it for even one more day…

I had no no more ideas of who to turn to or what else to do to get out of the same never-ending argument about everything and nothing. I found myself in helpless and hopeless, at a loss for a solution…

This course is based on the book, with real life support to help you the way I helped myself to be serene every day. All my relationships improved and I am finally happy in my skin.

Let me help you do the same for you!

I did the hard work for you. I did the research, did the courses and the exams and applied it all practically in my own life. I then helped many others so you can do it in the comfort of your own home!

What will I learn

Let me help you step by step to banish Hamster Wheel Relationships from your life forever!

  • You will find out how the heck you ended up in a Hamster Wheel Relationship
  • You will recognize your triggers, your limiting beliefs and your missing tools
  • And one week at a time, we will put in place a healthy, empowering outlook or behavior. 
  • You will learn that you are an adult with choices who can redesign your life! 

If that sounds like something you want to achieve, read on…

Time Commitments and other Requirements

  • A twelve week course which you can do in your own time
  • You can come back to it anytime, as long as you want, but some of the bonuses are time sensitive
  • Every week will need about an hour of your time to do the self-evaluation, read through the course material and watch the short (less than 10 minutes) video.
  • You unlock the next module in your own time by completing a short quiz at the end of each module.
  • The weekly Facebook live session will be maximum 20 minutes long. It will remain available to watch in your own time.
  • The more transparent you are, the better results you will get!

Pre-Book this course as numbers will be limitted

"It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped" - Tony Robbins
Coming 17 Sept

Course Description

  • Every week you get:

    • A self-evaluating questionnaire to start with
    • Course Modules on the weekly topics
    • A Short Video to watch in your own time
    • A handy Tip to overcoming challenges associated with the week’s topic
    • An Empowering Communication Hack
    • A weekly Empowering Action
    • A quiz for evaluating your progress (no right or wrong answers!) You will also have a weekly opportunity to give your input on the course and ask for improvements or more explanation.


Week 1: Emergency Room 101

This Week’s Topics

  • Anxiety, regrets, sadness, loss, despair

  • Helpless and hopeless

Week 2: Identifying patterns

This Week’s Topics

  • Why I need this relationship pattern

  • Traits in me

  • Traits in my partner

  • Helper, Helpless, Controller, Avoidant

Week 3. Identifying my triggers and emergency neutralizing

This Week’s Topics

  • My upbringing and experiences

  • Overcoming challenges

  • Being separate from others. Impingement. Enmeshment

  • Mindfulness in relationships

Week 4: I-nfinitepotential 101

This Week’s Topics

  • My world view

  • My limiting beliefs

  • Healthier outlook,

  • I-nfinitepotential beliefs

Week 5: Self Empowerment 101

This Week’s Topics:

  • Taking my own reponsibility

  • Wants and needs

  • Give up control. Voice.

  • Step into own self

Week 6: Emotional Intelligence 101

This Week’s Topics:

  • TA The games people play

  • What is an adult?

  • Self-awareness & self-directedness

  • Self-management, Social Intelligence, Relationship Managing


Week 7: Self Protective Measures 101

This Week’s Topics:

  • Withdrawing

  • Conflict avoiding

  • People pleasing

  • Learned helplessness

Week 8: A Healthy Relationship versus a Toxic Relationship

This Week’s Topics:

  • What a toxic relationship looks like

  • What a healthy relationship looks like

Week 9: Self Esteem 101

This Week’s Topics:

  • Self-Worth

  • Self-Acceptance

  • Self-Compassion, Self-Feeling and Self-Care

  • Self-Respect, Self-Directedness, Self-Guidance and Self-Love

Week 10: Boundaries

This Week’s Topics:

  • Having a “No”

  • What is a boundary?

  • Consequences – how high?

  • Non-negotiables

Week 11: Communication

This Week’s Topics :

  • Difficult conversations

Week 12: Self-Direction Wrap-Up

This Week’s Topics:

  • The rock in the river

  • The future, what now?

  • For singles: dating. For everyone: better standards.

  • When to walk away

Pre-Book this course as numbers will be limitted

"It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped" - Tony Robbins
Coming 17 Sept


This work and the group support have helped me work through my neuroses and abuse. It helped me to see myself as an adult, embrace responsibility and to grow and accept love in my relationships and in all areas of my life.
I found my self-esteem and personal power in the work I did with Louise on hamster wheel relationships. I learned that I could only control myself and therefore I could ask for what I needed and confidently state what I would no longer accept.
Stepping off the hamster wheel was the hardest thing to do but once off it and with continual commitment and hard work my life has done a 180 turnaround. Thank you Louise for opening the door.
Mel B
Louise vn Liebenberg

About the teacher

Louise is an artist and entrepreneur who happened to discover her passion for coaching and counselling through the hard knocks of life. She has a Diploma in Counselling and is a Life Skills Coach. She has been leading groups in transformation for the last 8 years. This includes groups at Akeso Psychiatric Clinic, Adult Child Anonymous Groups and Self Esteem Development Groups.

Her client base is mostly referrals from those who have already achieved remarkable transforming results in their lives. She is highly skilled in helping you resolve childhood hurts and griefs and turning those with unconscious debilitating behaviors and limiting beliefs into empowered people with the ability to self-actualize their dreams.

As the founder of, she believes passionately in every human being’s ability to become self-empowered and self-actualizing.j

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