Hamster Wheel Relationships for Women

A Step by Step Process to Escape Unfulfilling Relationship Patterns

If you are caught in pointless spirals in which you repeat the same arguments and the same relationship disasters over and over, you will love this book.

I wrote this book for the desperate “me” from 12 years ago, who did not know what else to try, where to get help and indeed that there was another way to happiness. 

For me, I now  know that it is possible to really change your life from the inside out, that great relationships do exist, that they look different from what I thought, and that all I needed was better information. 

This book is in workbook style. You do it in your own time, at your own pace, but with support always near in the form of a Free Facebook Support Group, where you can post your questions.  Answers are posted once a week in the weekly Live Videos, but available to access in your own time.

I would love for you to have these tools and knowledge too!

Accompanied by a Free, Downloadable Workbook!

If you are struggling to retain connection and acceptance in relationships...
Repeatedly find yourself Lonely and Unsupported...
And want to Break Free from Codependence
This book is for you...

If you are
  • are tired of the same communication patterns with the same outcomes
  • are so over relationship drama
  • find it hard to voice your wants and needs in a relationship.
  • feel trapped in a relationship in which you feel lonely, unheard and without support:
  • tumble from relationship to relationship and eventually suspect that you are repeating one key mistake
  • Or if you are in a very long, dysfunctional relationship, based on repeating the same mistake over and over
  • The step by step process empowers women to
  • decipher and decode what the root cause is
  • change their own limiting beliefs
  • work through their unresolved grieves
  • learn healthier outlooks and to acquire life-changing tools
  • work through learning the early warning signs
  • making better choices
  • learn effective communication processes, and
  • find out how to dial down your own overly emotional responses.
  • Whether you want to change the patterns that occur in relationship after relationship or in a long-term relationship, you will be empowered to address your pain points skilfully

…saved, improved and be happy. 

You can create connection, support and joy in your life by stepping off the cycle.

When you change your own outlook, behaviour and coping tools, everyone around us changes in response to your healthier ways.

The book is accompanied by a FREE printable PDF that serves as a powerful workbook for transformation.

Throughout the book you will also find links to BONUS checklists and “HOW TO” sheets.

Susan Quaite, author

Hamster Wheel is a very well written book that contains material every women needs to read. If you have been in multiple relationships or in just one long term relationship this is material you need to read. Read it by yourself, read with your daughters, and your daughters in law. Just read it. (Might not be bad to read with your sons too)

Shanda K Miller: writer, trainer, and consultant. www.shandakmiller.com

This book was both brutally eye-opening and honest, and encouraging and insightful at the same time.  The thing I found most valuable was that no matter how I got to this place, and no matter my childhood upbringing, it’s now up to me. I alone am responsible for my happiness and my actions.

Lyn Cikara, Leadership Development Professional, Author of: Stronger than Cancer

I am always interested in what makes women’s relationships more successful, at work and in private. This book is spot on for women to learn from even if intimate relationships aren’t the problem! I see application for the wisdom shared in this book being applicable in leadership, when women face great career obstacles as well as attitudes towards taking charge when diagnosed with serious illness. 

From Trauma to Triumph

Real life stories from 12 powerful women to help you overcome your history and to thrive.

We all experience trauma sooner or later. It can be small, repeated events, or life-changing in-your-face events. Sometimes it is visible, and people can empathize, but so often it is hidden away, and we feel all alone and overwhelmed.

A lot of our childhood trauma is ignored, normalized or wiped from our memory. It does not mean it did not happen, nor does it mean you were unaffected. Every trauma, whether you were still small, or whether it happened in our adult years, leaves an impact on us. It is our solemn duty to ourselves to become free from what directs our lives with invisible strings, and to empower ourselves by being fully aware of our own part to play in transforming our challenges into a stepping stone that will take us towards thriving.

 Some of us are more resilient, seemingly getting through trauma easier than others. That is not how it really is. It is just that some of us have learned better tools with which to navigate this unpredictable world we live in.

This book is your doorway to finding support, getting to know others who have been through the same as you, and to start using the tools and insights that moved everyone of our authors to new outlooks and abilities. 

With access to each authors’ summit recordings!


Talk Trust Feel Book

Talk, Trust, Feel

Overcome your story, your history, your pain and your inherited patterns so that you can shine and live fully

You don’t know what you don’t know. That is the premise of this book. We run on autopilot most of the time. We are creatures of habit. We are programmed by our circumstances, our parent’s internal stories and all the limiting beliefs and trauma wounds handed down over generations.We rarely stop to examine our entrenched outlooks, to challenge our internal dialogues, and we have no tools to replace our habitual behaviors with.This all stops when we run into ‘I just can’t do this anymore’; into ‘There must be more’; and finally, into being broken wide open by trauma or loss.We can learn to live more present lives, more connected lives, more ‘being real’ lives way before we run into that wall that leaves us being road kill. And that is why I curated this book of experts who are helping us see what we don’t see, because we just don’t know.

  • Adult Child Syndrome,
  • Inner Child Healing and Reparenting,
  • Neurofeedback,
  • Emotional Freedom Technique,
  • Hypnotherapists,
  • Parenting,
  • Body Consciousness, and
  • Real live people who went through it all, gained control of their outlooks, learned new skills, and became self-empowered.

Use this book as a deep immersion by using the questions in the last chapter to investigate your own life, as with awareness you can make the changes you need.

Relationships for Men by Men for Men

Make sense of feelings, communication, connection, conflict and emotional maturity

If you ever wanted straight talk from men, this is it.

If you ever wondered if men have the same capability to experience feelings, this will clear that up! These chapters, and the real live conversations that are available to listen to, will tell the stories about:

  • Hopes dashed
  • Fear of being hurt again
  • Emotionally hiding
  • Avoiding conflicts
  • Affairs
  • Sexual addiction
  • Codependency
  • Unexpectedly being a single dad
  • Bullying
  • Being sexually abused as a boy
  • Having had alcoholic fathers
  • An overly strict upbringing
  • And some straight talk to take your intimate relationships next level!

There will be strong language, there will be honesty and confessions. Guys messed up big time, but they also found clarity and recovery and happiness.

Upcoming books in the Hamster Wheel Series

Hamster Wheel Relationships for Men

A  Manual for Mastering Relationships

If you find yourself in the same fights and the same dead-end dialogues, this book is for you.

If you are baffled by the mysteries of relationships, you will love the simple steps to follow to happy relationships.

If you find your closest relationships tiring and frustrating, this book will give you a clear guide to understanding what you could do to have joy and peace in your life.



Hamster Wheel Relationships for Couples

A Step-by-Step Commitment to Fulfilling Relationships

Relationships needs :

  • clear communication 
  • constant renegotiation
  • commitment to each other and the relationship

This book offers the tools and the insight you need in a handy workbook format.

better understanding, empathy and connection is achievable, while building two individuals who practices self-mastery. 



Hamster Wheel Relationships for Families

A Step-by-Step Process to Establish Healthy Family Communication

Our families of origin determines how we see ourselves in the world. We carry these patterns into our adult relationships, unaware that it directs our current actions and reactions.

The communication tools and empowering techniques in this book make sense of familial patterns and messy interactions and establish healthier thought patterns and outlooks.

Find ways to deal with unresolved childhood hurts and limiting beliefs through awareness making.

A workbook for parents and adult children.



Hamster Wheel Relationships for The Workplace

A Step-by-Step Structure for Successful Professional Relationships

Humans remain the same while the workplace changes at an astounding pace, demanding more flexibility and emotional intelligence from us day by day.

Balancing a fulfilling work-life with a stressful career is enough of a challenge. Adding to it navigation through ever-changing interpersonal workplace dynamics and steering through office politics and no wonder you crawl home at night, exhausted!

With better inter-personal skills comes better teamwork, better opportunities and a more fulfilling work-life.

This book will teach you how to mindfully work your way to the top.