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Alain Dumonceaux
Men who work with me have meaning again in their lives. By guiding them to make better choices they learn to heal past wounds, repair and stop hidden patterns that are sabotaging their lives allowing them to live their destiny with clarity and conviction in all aspects of their life.
Our Conversation Highlights
- What does it take for a man to become awakened if he does not even know he is not.
- Take responsibility for 3 things
- Living other people’s version of me.
- Hero’s Journey.
- I was completely disconnected from my marriage.
- I was not in it as a couple.
- Codependent. She lived for me; she lost who she was.
- I did not put enough in.
- Once the children came, I felt neglected.
- Resentment.
- Father quiet, mother strong-willed, I saw my father as weak.
- I wouldn’t make a fuss.
- I didn’t know how to have a conversation about the stuff that was bothering me.
- What is truly bothering us?
- Authenticity.
- Built connection.
- Schedule time for each other.
- No commitment means no trust.
- What if you are “Married to an asshole?”
Alan Cox
Imagine life without your family and friends. Marriages fail, friendships lost, stroke survivors and their carers struggle because of communication breakdown. We are changing this. Brainy Gecko’s Mindful Communication Course collaborates with stroke survivors, carers, and psychologists, delivering practical communication skills that deepen relationships.
Our Conversation Highlights
- “You will never see me cry again.”
- Life happens.
- 40s’ hiccup midlife crisis.
- 24 hours to talk about a pinch.
- You can’t solve your problems by distracting yourself.
- When you lock your emotions away, you are powerless.
- Listening skills.
- Accept that you are an emotional being.
- The person that you are with, your partner and children, are emotional beings.
- How to express your feelings in a way that doesn’t point the finger.
- Renegotiate expectations.
- What being driven causes.
- People are good defenders not listeners.
- 7 clues people give when they are about to leave
Chuck Groot
Chuck Groot’s CPA, MPA, MBA credentials as an author, coach and entrepreneur are noteworthy. His clients credit their success to his uncanny ability to get right to the root of any challenge that they put in front of him. He credits his success to his clients and their willingness to being open to new ideas and desire in pursuit of excellence.
Our Conversation Highlights
- Married to an alcoholic.
- Dissociate disease from a person.
- We model ourselves on our fathers
- Drop stereotypes. Mother and charge of house, father in business.
- The values a man needs for a successful relationship and a successful life
- We need to be in control of our own mind and beliefs.
- Examine your own roles.
- Two people going the same direction, at the same time.
- Willingness to have meaningful conversations.
- How many people actually respect themselves?
- Everyone wants to be liked and to be loved.
- Know that you are a worthy individual; worthy of love; equal to what you are willing to give.
Jeff Stitely
I’ve supported 100s of men to successfully: *Develop presence creating a new level of flow, ease and joy *Learn how to resolve conflicts easily, effectively and hold it as a window to more intimacy *Significantly improved their sex life and intimacy *Created clarity on their direction and goals resulting in more confidence, vitality and inspiration
Our Conversation Highlights
- What if you are married to someone who cannot be wrong?
- What if a partner does not want counseling?
- Committing to breaking through our defences.
- We were opposites in so many ways.
- I loved listening to her talk.
- When she died of cancer it was just me for my kids.
- I had to balance my parenting.
- Biggest gift to yourself is to see your partner.
- My mum did not see me.
- Show appreciation.
- What it means to be present in a relationship.
- Authenticity.
- Conflict resolution.
- Conflict is so much due to misunderstanding our filters.
- Be curious, go for clarity.
- Shut up and listen.
- Slow down. Sex is not about a goal.
- Sex is an opportunity to connect.
- Porn.
- LGBTQI acceptance/support.
Jan Robberts
As an Intentional Leadership Coach for the last 12 years, he has discovered tools and techniques to realign positive growth, personal development, confidence building, powerful communication, and self-leadership for individuals in their personal lives, their businesses and their social circles.
Our Conversation Highlights
- No coincidences.
- I was a fat kid. Bullying,calling me names.
- Outside I was happy, the class clown.
- Inside I was damaged goods.
- My parents had no idea. I could hide in my bedroom.
- By 12 I got tall and bullying stopped, but I kept bullying myself.
- Ulcer at 16!
- “I made a decision.”
- Red Mist
- Martial arts.
- Family emigrated.
- Married at 20 but it only lasted three years.
- I married someone who wanted to change me.
- With low self-esteem I decided it was me.
- Difference between arrogance and confidence.
- “When there is no enemy within, there is no enemy.”
- I am now aware of what I put inside my head.
- My daughter thought it was her fault we split. Daughter bulimia.
- Second marriage: we drifted apart.
- Taking relationships for granted.
- In a relationship with a powerful women, the ego can get in the way
Jude Sandvall
I am Jude: The Divorced Dadvocate and I use cutting-edge approaches to coaching dads. I will assist you in creating a crystal clear vision for your life after divorce, uncover any hidden challenges that may be sabotaging you, and leave you renewed, re-energized, and inspired.
Our Conversation Highlights
- There are not enough resources geared at helping men after divorce.
- Parents separated when I was 15.
- Marriage at 29, three daughters.
- Divorce is an opportunity to become broken open.
- Co-parenting, codependent, caregiver, controlling.
- If you don’t get results, you have to alter something.
- Mother – narcissistic behaviour, dad – distant.
- Break generational curse.
- Love was conditional.
- Fathers abdicating responsibilities.
- One of the mistakes you make as an adult is not to work together.
- Co-parenting tips.
- Not to rely on others and not to trust.
Larry McInnes
Infidelity is an emotional minefield. Transitioning to the next chapter of life can be uncertain at best. Without making any excuses for our affairs, we’ll be looking at how to intentionally build a rewarding life of happiness and abundance. (Spoiler: it’s probably easier than you think.)
Our Conversation Highlights
- After 20 years of marriage I cheated on my wife. I lost everything.
- I spent many nights on my friend’s sofa – with a cat.
- I fell into a deep depression.
- My kids disowned me.
- I started running from that damn sofa towards the unknown.
- What was missing in my life?
- A general or overall level of unhappiness… but you get used to stuff like that.
- Was this really where I wanted to be?
- I didn’t think it was fixable.
- I just wanted out.
- I did not see any affair on the horizon.
- This is what affairs do: you are living two lives and comparing two lives.
- The affair was starting to have its difficulties too.
- I was not happy in either place.
- I had a responsibility to address the issues.
- I can’t fix past but I can address the present
- We don’t talk about what bothers us.
- I didn’t know what I didn’t know.
Larry McInnes
Coach, storyteller, speaker, and charity co-founder
Author of Break the Silence – A practical guide that helps victims of abuse break their silence.
Our Conversation Highlights
- I was a player – a character I created
- The mask of masculinity
- The only concern for my dog kept me alive
- The silent pandemic of men living in silence
- “What if people don’t believe you?”
Howard Rankin
Cynical psychologist…coach, podcast host, speaker, best-selling and award-winning author
From prominent, respected psychologist to disgrace… In facing a challenging journey, he learned what it means to deal with shame, humiliation & disgrace and what it takes to turn a personal failure into an amazing journey of redemption and reinvention. He now helps others through that same journey of recovering their selves, finding meaning & restoring their lives.
Our Conversation Highlights
- Short affair
- Reputation lost
- Facing shame
- Reinventing yourself
- Hiding and being sensitive about it
- Effective communication
- Neuropsychology as tool
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