Feelings… fear them or embrace them?
We have this overriding fear of feeling our negative feelings. We will do anything not to feel them! We will stuff them down relentlessly with distractions. We will build thick walls…
3 Reasons to have a difficult conversation
It is called a "difficult conversation", because it is not easy! But then, living with the consequences of not having a difficult conversation ain't easy either! And that would be…
Getting the good things we want in life…
Here is how I used to fool myself! I used to say that I set strong limits. Cringing now! What it really was, was a fear based control of…
You are allowed to change your mind!
It is rather amazing that a lot of people do not know this! I did not! I have changed my mind about many things - career, diet, hairstyles, where…
Do you love me enough to love my “NO”?
I find it hard to choose between the books that had such a profound influence on my life, but "Boundaries" by Dr John Townsend and Dr Henry Cloud is definitely…
Judgement?
It definitely sucks to feel judged.It makes us feellesspowerlessconfusednot safemisunderstoodexcludednot good enoughinvisiblenot heardnot acceptablesad or angry or bothThe great thing is that we can change all that by understanding that…