It definitely sucks to feel judged. It makes us feel less powerless confused not safe misunderstood excluded not good enough invisible not heard not acceptable sad or angry or both The great thing is that we can change all that by understanding that a lack of self esteem or deep seated shame makes us vulnerable to judgement. Whether we are consciously feeling shame, or whether it has been unconsciously carried with us for a long time, it is worth looking into processing these feelings, even if the help of a professional is needed. Sometimes we need a neutral view from someone
Hamster Wheel Relationships for Women
A Step by Step Process to Escape Unfulfilling Relationship Patterns
If you are caught in pointless spirals in which you repeat the same arguments and the same relationship disasters over and over, you will love this book.
I wrote this book for the desperate “me” from 12 years ago, who did not know what else to try, where to get help and indeed that there was another way to happiness.
For me, I now know that it is possible to really change your life from the inside out, that great relationships do exist, that they look different from what I thought, and that all I needed was better information.
This book is in workbook style. You do it in your own time, at your own pace, but with support always near in the form of a Free Facebook Support Group, where you can post your questions. Answers are posted once a week in the weekly Live Videos, but available to access in your own time.
I would love for you to have these tools and knowledge too!
“I was amazed at how deep a bit of unbiased, authentic nurturing could take me into my soul and where I could go and STILL BE SAFE!”
The thing about self-esteem, is that I didn't realize I had none, until I started doing the work. My entire life seemed to be made up of stumbling from one bad job (husband, boyfriend, relationship... you name it!) to the next. Many "ahaa" moments came to pass during our sessions and because of this, I worked on my self-esteem extensively and learned to love myself unconditionally... I didn't need to get this love from another human being anymore, it's right here inside of me
Dear Louise. You have revealed to me that it isn't even who you know, but rather whether or not you know your self. Thank you.
My life was in tatters and I did not know how to fix it. My emotions were on a roller coaster and there did not seem to be even a glimmer of hope for my future. Louise aided me to see the pattern I had in my life. I was led to believe that it was the norm to be second in line to everyone else and that I needed to perform to be accepted. I found I was more than competent and capable of managing on my own.
"Louise is a remarkable ACA therapist. Her highly instinctive, insightful approach changes lives. She gifts her clients with an unstoppable self-awareness and willingness to change. She does it through the explanation of simple truths, which bring on the sudden death of unawareness or ‘sleepwalking’.
“A short cut to sanity. I can't recommend her highly enough."
From wearing a daily mask of dis-believe and lack of trust. To smiling from within and excitingly await each day's challenge. From hiding beneath clothing that scares all, to wearing my 'womanhood' proudly. From believing all was okay to knowing all will be okay.
Thank u for all the help u have given me. Without it, I would not be on the path to something better. My sessions with u have changed my whole outlook. And yes, I have made many mistakes. But I am learning to forgive myself. Does not make them unimportant, doesn't make me not accountable. Could still bite me in the ass... but am learning to trust myself & have much better judgment than I did.
About the Author, Louise VN Liebenberg
I am an irrepressible optimist dedicated to helping you become who you want to be!
OK, that’s not the full story, but as I am a visual kinda girl I thought I would tell you more about myself in pictures.
Get the popcorn and enjoy the video. Less than 2 minutes!
The dad-weekend and mom-week thing were all new to us. It is quite a change for a 7-year old who grew up having the run of the farm. Everywhere was safe. A huge playground.Divorce changes things. Town and a mother who worked all day and came home at night bone-weary was all new.
We have this overriding fear of feeling our negative feelings. We will do anything not to feel them! We will stuff them down relentlessly with distractions. We will build thick walls to keep out the possibility of being hurt again out. We will deny their existence. We will prevent hurt